This post comes from genuine concern. I have worked with a few different trainers over the last 9 years, but the last 3 years I have been totally 100% committed to Shane Heugly. He is my coach. Why? He knows his stuff. He's experienced. He has a portfolio of success stories to be commended for, and he's so passionate about this sport. And Shane is just one of many talented, dedicated, knowledgeable coaches out there. Whenever you sign with a new coach it's important make sure you are on the same page. You need to feel comfortable with your coach, for sure, but there's so much more to it than that. What are your short-term goals? What are your long-term plans? What is it ultimately you want to accomplish? What is your plan for right now? What are your expectations? Are you ready to commit to the process and put your complete trust in your coach? Even when it doesn't make sense? Even when it's hard? Even when you're not seeing changes as quickly as perhaps you'd hoped? Are you willing to trust the process? Are you willing to do something maybe different from what your friend is doing? Are you ready to stop comparing and instead focus on your journey alone? Are you ready to NOT make excuses? Are you ready to own every decision you make? Are you ready to have faith in yourself? Put yourself first? Do what it takes? Follow a routine or guidelines and hold yourself accountable? Are. You. Ready?
A good coach isn't necessarily one who holds your hand through the whole process. More than likely he's not going to check in daily. He might not even check in at all. A good coach is going to give you the guidelines which you in turn are meant to follow. And YOU check in. A good coach isn't always going to tell you what you want to hear. He's not going to make it easy. That being said he's not going out of his way to make it harder than it needs to be either. A good coach is going to cater the process to exactly meet your needs. As YOU check in he will monitor your progress and will adjust parameters accordingly - whether that be your macros, your meal-plan, you workouts, or your cardio. A good coach doesn't need to change your diet weekly. A good coach is meant to help you achieve your goal. Oftentimes that's by keeping the variables to a minimum. We all know that 1+1=2. It's predictable. It's something that never changes. It's something you can count on. A good coach follows this same thinking. He might customize your 1+1 a little bit differently initially, but once the parameters are set, it's more than likely that those figures won't waiver much at all throughout the process - depending on how YOUR body responds.
What I keep seeing and hearing in the circles I run in are people looking for excuses. Their looking to point the blame, and find reasons why they aren't where they thought they should be. Their unhappy with the process - having not had proper communication and setting expectations in advance. They want what they never made clear to begin with. And when they don't get whatever it is they were wanting, they feel let down, discouraged, and start looking to place blame.
I'm not saying this is always the case, but it does happen. Unfortunately I've seen it too many times.
And there are times when it does make sense to part ways. Considering I've worked with a few different coaches over the years, I have done the very same thing. Other trainers I've worked with we simply haven't seen eye to eye. Communication was poor, and my expectations in some cases before were too much. I've learned. At least for me. I now know what's important to me. Communication and expectations are key. And I try more than anything not to expect too much. From me, yes, but from my coach? I'm not going to hold him accountable for things that are well withing my own circle of influence and I should be doing already.
And I do want to mention there is a fine line between a good coach and a poor one. I can't say that all coaches have your best interests in mind. I wish, but that's not always the case. No, there are some who will put your body's health in jeopardy simply to get you to your goal - whether it be the stage, losing weight, or some kind of race or event. Be smart. Do listen to your internal voice. You know what truly feels right and wrong.
But if you've done your homework beforehand and are working with an esteemed well-educated and proven coach, by all means, trust him! Trust the process. Enjoy the journey. Do your best. Pull out all the stops and follow his direction. Commit. Don't make excuses. A good coach has your back, so don't think differently. You might not get the results you want every time, but with each experience you're growing, learning, adapting, and changing. It all adds up, and this experience helps your coach too. He'll learn right along with you what works, what doesn't, and what changes might need to be made. But at the end of the day, trust him.